When someone asks how you are doing, how do you answer? a. Do you tell the truth no matter how bad you are feeling b. Do you kind of tell the truth but sugar coat it because you don't want them to feel bad c. Lie d. Tell them what they want to hear
I find that I don't want anyone else to feel down so I keep it all to myself.
I'm very up front... Tell the truth!!!! You will do more damage if you keep it all in, that's too much!!!!
I lie, unfortunately. I tell them I'm doing fine every time.
Used to bec, thenb, now A
Tell them what they want to hear!
My husband is such a liar and so am I.
D, I have always been the strong optimistic one. And I still am
Depends if they are asking to be polite; or if they truly care about me.
Tell them the truth.
My response is always “I’m good!”
I've been instructed to lie
“I’m making it” is my usual answer. Which is true every day is a new day I am making it through
Be honest with yourself... Big hugs
It depends on the day, and who is asking. I usually try to stay pretty up beat. I guess it would be B.
I ask my mom how she's feeling all the time, I need her to tell me the truth. I want as much information as possible so when we see her doctor I can help her explain what problems she's having
It's not only wrong to lie but insults the person asking. No need to give a long answer. Just thank them for asking and briefly explain
I have been covering my truth to friends and family for almost 4 years now thinking I would spare their feelings. Now that I need them and want to tell them what is going on with me they don't want to listen and they act like they don't care. So I'm wondering if it's not best just to be honest in the beginning and keep them in the loop??
That almost sounds like insensitive people Lori Hartley. Unfortunately many people are self absorbed
Sick all not sick my answer is iam fine ty and i keep walking I have always put my trust in GOD!!!.... Only one all 2 friends Will know about my life.. İam very private my dad was this way...
I don’t think it serves anyone to lie. I read an article where we Re so conditioned not to tell the truth that even on the way to the Ovens a jewish woman responded she was fine. I don’t necessarily go into the bloody details but now will say something like i have a splitting headache so please let’s not rush through this. It is also a Matter of how private you want to keep things.
Always wonder what to do when people ask me. You never hear anyone say, “I feel terrible” but most of the time I do.
My mom, who never curses, told me she felt like shit the other day. She got her point across. Lol
2.5 years ago when I had my 1st surgery and then the radioactive iodine treatment and isolation it seemed like everyone, friends, family, coworkers.. Were all so interested and concerned about my situation. As things went forward and I didn't "bounce back", have a "speedy recovery ", get "good as new". But, instead it was more bad news, more tests and procedures and surgery, more specialists, more time off and down time. People become bored hearing about it. I feel some people ask, but don't really want to know. So, I have kinda become less willing to be open and honest about it.
We just need to remember all people can be insensitive at times. Truth is we need a lot of care and compassion, understandable so, but don't know how to ask for it and somtimes receive it. That is one reason why these groups are so important. People here are more than generous with their time and care.
ken, what a great question! I always say fine or good. Glad I'm not the only liar in the group. Lol
I saw a t-shirt advertised that said I neither had the time nor the Crayons to explain it to you and it's kind of how I feel
It depends who is asking
B and D mostly
depends who is asking
That you've had better days. Simple, no lying. And truthful.
I lie... I don't want friends and family to worry... I'm sure that's greedy on my part
That's my reasoning as well.
You wouldn't even know my mom ever had cancer 7 times with the way she acts. She's so strong for us
My Dad mostly keeps it to himself but sometimes he will tell us he doesn't feel good but that's about the extent of what he says. He doesn't go into any detail at all.
My husband and i promised each other to always tell the truth about how we felt when he got sick. It helped. For both of us.
Depends on who is asking? Most of the time I sugar coat the truth a tad so my friends and loved ones don't worry too much.
I only tell my husband how I feel and even then I try to soften it because he gets depressed knowing there's nothing he can do to help.
I do the same with my wife
Me too with my children and husband
Do you really think the person asking really wants to hear how u really feel, or is it a polite question after hello?
I think the majority of the time it is just being polite. I don't think they want to hear the nitty gritty details.
I'm usually feeling good, but if I'm tired I say so. I hate to complain, and I hate to spoil anybody's fun, so sometimes I go along with activities when I 'd rather stay home. I suspect that might be good for me tho ...
Everyone knows how I feel
My husbands answer is always " hangin' in there" with a smile. He wants people to know dealing with cancer is doable not discourageable.
That's what I say. Or as good as I can. Which most times pretty good!
I go with "so far, so good"
Depending on who asks and when they ask. Sometimes I'm not in the mood to talk and sometimes I want to scream at them. I'd say just say what feels right at the time for you. My current answer is 'I really need to come up with a new answer to that question. In the meantime let's talk about you'
At first i did i told my co-workers and friends when they asked. But now its been 5 months. I just say nothing when im cuaght in a deep thinking mode or moody.
I tell them I'm feeling great. Ever if I feel like crap. I don't want anyone to know how I really feel. I helps me to keep going strong.
Be honest but try to stay positive and find the best in each day. I know everyday isn't rainbows and butterflies. After all, remember what you're fighting for. Hope you feel better soon
True but I need to keep telling my self I'm fine so I don't get depressed.