How can I answer when someone asks "how are you doing"?

When someone asks how you are doing, how do you answer?
a. Do you tell the truth no matter how bad you are feeling
b. Do you kind of tell the truth but sugar coat it because you don't want them to feel bad
c. Lie
d. Tell them what they want to hear

I find that I don't want anyone else to feel down so I keep it all to myself.

Ken Rosa
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I'm very up front... Tell the truth!!!! You will do more damage if you keep it all in, that's too much!!!!

Melanie Wynn
M

I lie, unfortunately. I tell them I'm doing fine every time.

Shelley Colbert
S

Used to bec, thenb, now A

Lori Mcmahon
L

Tell them what they want to hear!

Kristie Key
K

My husband is such a liar and so am I.

Kathi Holder
K

D, I have always been the strong optimistic one. And I still am

Tina Rodrigues
T

Depends if they are asking to be polite; or if they truly care about me.

Lauren Schulz
L

Tell them the truth.

Maureen Page
M

My response is always “I’m good!”

Marla Bruce
M

I've been instructed to lie

John Ryan
J

“I’m making it” is my usual answer. Which is true every day is a new day I am making it through

Deborah Olsen
D

Be honest with yourself... Big hugs

Sheila Tate
S

It depends on the day, and who is asking. I usually try to stay pretty up beat. I guess it would be B.

Pam Stallings
P

I ask my mom how she's feeling all the time, I need her to tell me the truth. I want as much information as possible so when we see her doctor I can help her explain what problems she's having

Christine Whittaker
C

It's not only wrong to lie but insults the person asking. No need to give a long answer. Just thank them for asking and briefly explain

Deborah Oneill
D

I have been covering my truth to friends and family for almost 4 years now thinking I would spare their feelings. Now that I need them and want to tell them what is going on with me they don't want to listen and they act like they don't care. So I'm wondering if it's not best just to be honest in the beginning and keep them in the loop??

Lori Hartley
L

That almost sounds like insensitive people Lori Hartley. Unfortunately many people are self absorbed

Linda Hendricks 3 years

Sick all not sick my answer is iam fine ty and i keep walking
I have always put my trust in GOD!!!.... Only one all 2 friends
Will know about my life.. İam very private my dad was this way...

Lillian Velazquez
L

I don’t think it serves anyone to lie. I read an article where we Re so conditioned not to tell the truth that even on the way to the Ovens a jewish woman responded she was fine. I don’t necessarily go into the bloody details but now will say something like i have a splitting headache so please let’s not rush through this. It is also a
Matter of how private you want to keep things.

Linda Hendricks
L

Always wonder what to do when people ask me. You never hear anyone say, “I feel terrible” but most of the time I do.

Buffy Sylvester
B

My mom, who never curses, told me she felt like shit the other day. She got her point across. Lol

Christine Whittaker 3 years

2.5 years ago when I had my 1st surgery and then the radioactive iodine treatment and isolation it seemed like everyone, friends, family, coworkers.. Were all so interested and concerned about my situation. As things went forward and I didn't "bounce back", have a "speedy recovery ", get "good as new". But, instead it was more bad news, more tests and procedures and surgery, more specialists, more time off and down time. People become bored hearing about it. I feel some people ask, but don't really want to know. So, I have kinda become less willing to be open and honest about it.

Sheila Moon
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We just need to remember all people can be insensitive at times. Truth is we need a lot of care and compassion, understandable so, but don't know how to ask for it and somtimes receive it. That is one reason why these groups are so important. People here are more than generous with their time and care.

Deborah Oneill
D

ken, what a great question! I always say fine or good. Glad I'm not the only liar in the group. Lol

Tracy Campos
T

I saw a t-shirt advertised that said I neither had the time nor the Crayons to explain it to you and it's kind of how I feel

Ken Rosa 3 years

It depends who is asking

Aine Darby
A

B and D mostly

Kellie Steele
K

depends who is asking

Tabatha Fontenot
T

Very true

Shelley Colbert 3 years

That you've had better days. Simple, no lying. And truthful.

Dee Mckinney
D

I lie... I don't want friends and family to worry... I'm sure that's greedy on my part

Kathy Robison
K

That's my reasoning as well.

Shelley Colbert 3 years

You wouldn't even know my mom ever had cancer 7 times with the way she acts. She's so strong for us

Kat İrwin
K

B.

Sarah Dyer
S

My Dad mostly keeps it to himself but sometimes he will tell us he doesn't feel good but that's about the extent of what he says. He doesn't go into any detail at all.

Summer Nguyen
S

My husband and i promised each other to always tell the truth about how we felt when he got sick. It helped. For both of us.

Sabine Solis
S

Depends on who is asking? Most of the time I sugar coat the truth a tad so my friends and loved ones don't worry too much.

Gay Roman
G

I only tell my husband how I feel and even then I try to soften it because he gets depressed knowing there's nothing he can do to help.

Katherine Mcgrath
K

I do the same with my wife

Ken Rosa 3 years

Me too with my children and husband

Ruth Murdock 3 years

Do you really think the person asking really wants to hear how u really feel, or is it a polite question after hello?

Ruth Murdock
R

I think the majority of the time it is just being polite. I don't think they want to hear the nitty gritty details.

Katherine Mcgrath 3 years

I'm usually feeling good, but if I'm tired I say so. I hate to complain, and I hate to spoil anybody's fun, so sometimes I go along with activities when I 'd rather stay home. I suspect that might be good for me tho ...

Ally Dowdy
A

Everyone knows how I feel

Joyce Honeycutt
J

No lies

Joyce Honeycutt
J

My husbands answer is always " hangin' in there" with a smile. He wants people to know dealing with cancer is doable not discourageable.

Dianne Larsen
D

That's what I say. Or as good as I can. Which most times pretty good!

Francesca Guerra 3 years

I go with "so far, so good"

John Ryan 3 years

Depending on who asks and when they ask. Sometimes I'm not in the mood to talk and sometimes I want to scream at them.
I'd say just say what feels right at the time for you.
My current answer is 'I really need to come up with a new answer to that question. In the meantime let's talk about you'

Raquel Ellis
R

At first i did i told my co-workers and friends when they asked. But now its been 5 months. I just say nothing when im cuaght in a deep thinking mode or moody.

Jeffrey Childress
J

I tell them I'm feeling great. Ever if I feel like crap. I don't want anyone to know how I really feel. I helps me to keep going strong.

Peggy Ledbetter
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Be honest but try to stay positive and find the best in each day. I know everyday isn't rainbows and butterflies. After all, remember what you're fighting for. Hope you feel better soon

Jessi Chang
J

True but I need to keep telling my self I'm fine so I don't get depressed.

Peggy Ledbetter
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